|Mary at age 26 with Toto|
|Love everything about this photo!!! Mary (in the basket) with her siblings, Bill, Rowena and Bob (I think the boy in dungarees was a neighbour friend)|
|Mary's children Janelle and Brent and one of her four grandchildren, Grady, at the Celebration of Life.|
Friends and family and work colleagues stood up and said what Mary had meant to them. Kindness, acceptance, and tolerance: a reluctance to criticise or judge, an ability to make others feel good about themselves. Another word came up in describing Mary: Character.
Our bookclub just read The Road to Character by David Brooks, the premise being that we should work harder to rebalance the scales between our “résumé virtues”—achieving wealth, fame, and status—and our “eulogy virtues,” kindness, bravery, honesty, faithfulness, focusing on what kind of relationships we have formed.
(By the way, our bookclub was undecided on who embodies Character in our times. Who would you nominate?)
When Kevin tried to call his father after Mary died, his father could not stay on the line as he was crying so much. He was heartbroken. Though Mary was 71, she never stopped being his little sister and he never stopped wanting to protect her from harm. In the end he couldn't do that.
What will be your "eulogy virtues" ...what will people will say about you? What do you hope to be remembered for?